…The broom that is—unpacking the marriage question. I figured I might as well tackle the hard questions first! This way when I’m shopping for the baddest birthday dress I won’t be weighed down with the accessories of “should I be married”, “why aren’t I married”, and “would my husband even like this dress” because baggage never goes with any color! When 27 rolls in I just to be able to shop stress-free!
My Dad used to say, “Don’t call boys; let boys call you.” As I got older, I heard my spiritual Father say “A man who finds a wife finds a good thing”.* So it’s been my desire to heed to both my Fathers because I recognize in their infinite wisdom they both are saying the same thing. I realize that it is imperative to be about my Father’s business. I recognize its necessary to be in the will of God. I’m cognizant that the only way to be found is to be in the right place at the right time. I take great comfort in knowing that in all the examples of Love that I’ve seen, the women God have been on assignment… some by their spiritual Fathers, some by their natural Fathers, and some by both. That list of great women includes: Rebecca, Ruth, Esther, Leah, Adair, Jean, Ke’Anna, Gwen, Paulette, Sabrina, Melinda, April, Alicia and so on. Inevitably, my name shall be in the number. Oh, to be in the number!!
(Somebody just missed their SHOUT!)
After all, greatness is not what you have it’s what you give. And I intend to give tirelessly to the pursuit of my Father. Ever recognize how giving the Proverbs 31 woman one was? She gave her tenth, her time, her talent and it was then that her husband honored her. And she never had to speak well of herself because her fruit spoke for her at the gate.
I dare not tell you how to feel at 27 about marriage or at any age, but I dare you to envision stepping into your very OWN glass slipper and trusting God for it. I’ve got examples of love at first sight, new love, old love, young love, divorced and tried it again love—So I’ll bank on “seek ye first the Kingdom of God and his
righteousness and all these things shall be added onto you”.**
And as my good friend says, “I’ll wait. Uhm, I’ll wait.”
And to those of you who have surrounded me in your perfect examples of love: thank you for showing the world that love and marriage is attainable and sustainable.
Peace, Love and Wedding Rings. TBA :)
** Mathew 6:33
I’m turning 27 in nine days and counting! I’m excited although admittedly, I don’t know how to celebrate; not quite sure exactly how I feel about turning 27; and even more perplexed by what one wears both on the eve of that blessed event and on the day bell tolls. Do I still date at 27 or are most women that age married or consumed with the idea of marriage? Should I be consumed with my career? Or, like many around me, starting a family, and “nesting”? Everything I did at 25 and 26 seem subject to change now that I’m turning 27. Do 27-year-olds still go skating? Do they still enjoy ice cream and gummy peaches or are they all on low fat/no fat diets? Do they already have their Master’s and PhDs? And are they earning six figures?
I have so many questions but, one thing I know for sure is that I’m grateful. Heck, everyone that’s “50 and fabulous” turned 27 at least once in their lives (LOL).
I’m also certain—and equally thankful— that I’m NOT where I said I’d never be by the age of 27: still working as a Production Assistant. Not that there’s anything wrong with being a Production Assistant; we’ve all taken that job once. (Right, my fellow industry mates?!?!) At the end of the day, I ask myself, ‘Am I where I wanted to be at 27?’ The answer is still unclear but the thought of being here in the moment feels great and the world still feels achievable!
Where are the women in my life who have turned 27? Where are those of us who are approaching 27? Let’s start a little dialogue! And men, you are welcome to join the conversation as well. In fact, I’d be ecstatic to hear your thoughts. Oh and feel free to ask questions. This will make the journey even more exciting!!
Oh and to the naysayers who don’t particularly care about me (or anyone else) turning 27; that’s cool. The freedom is yours not to read further :) I’m choosing to be reflective at this time because 27 isn’t 25 nor is it 18, 16 or even 30 for that matter. It’s an odd year, which I choose not to equate to the oddness I felt after turning 23. 25… hmmmm was not so odd. I completely embraced 25, and wore it quite well might I add. But I want to dig deeper to understand how I feel about 27 and what’s in store for an Ethereal, Scholastic, and Confident Hunney like me?
Oh le do it!!! Lol.